My personality type... O.o
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saliennehttp://www.kn.sbc.com/wired/fil/pages/listtheennemr.html Go there if you want to find out yours. One of the last two links. The others just give details on the diff. personality types.
2. The helper. The embracing power-seeker
Helpers focus their lives on giving and receiving love. This personality is one of the most emotionally expressive, and one of the most focused on human relationships. At their best, healthy 2s bring a special interpersonal touch to almost everything they do, empowering others with their unrivaled desire to make others feel special, important, and loved for simply being themselves. It is uncommon (though not impossible) to find a 2 in high-profile leadership positions, or in a job that emphasizes analysis at the expense of human interaction.
Highly nurturing at their best, less healthy 2s show a darker side of their personality. When unhealthy 2s help others, it is merely to make themselves feel more important. They may offer "help" that seems intrusive and manipulative to others, or may do a "favor", only to subsequently ask repayment. Average twos are often attracted toward two seemingly opposite kinds of people: toward people with power, whose agenda they can support, and towards the needy and the outcast, who most urgently need the 2's caring spirit.
Famous 2w1s: Fred Rogers ("Mr. Rogers"), Princess Diana, Mother Teresa, Bill Cosby
Famous 2w3s: Kathie Lee Gifford
9s and 2s are often confused with each other (particularly female 9s and 2s) because both are dutiful types, with positive feelings for others that can be tinged with resentment at having their own feelings neglected. However, 2s are more assertive emotionally, while the 9 tends to be more emotionally detached. 9s tend to efface their egos when helping others, while 2s tend to magnify them.
The passion is "pride" and the corresponding fixation is "flattery".
There is a pride in the giving or helping.
A major issue or preoccupation is the gaining of approval and avoidance of rejection by intuiting the needs of the other and becoming almost indispensable (from the Two's perspective) in meeting those needs.
Other issues include, but are not limited to:
Relationship:
Relationship is central, the thing most important and, seemingly, the reason for being. Everything is perceived as relationship. Two's are aggressive in pursuit of relationship.
Other Referencing:
The Two is "other" referencing and is drawn to energetic, powerful others. The focal point of attention often is the space between self and other.
Seduction:
Being expressive; actively moving toward. Becoming indispensable, charming, engaging, social, helpful, caring, and loving.
Needs:
Other's needs are "louder" than own. Two's often like to feel they choose whether to fill the other's needs. Two's often experience self as self-sufficient, without needs. Own needs are repressed.
Manipulative:
Indirect expression of one's own needs.
Dependent:
Dependent on the response and approval from the other.
Feelings:
Two can be emotional, empathetic, dramatic, speak in superlatives and flattering.
Anger:
Anger comes up when the other doesn't appreciate the Two's efforts, or, when the other takes the Two for granted.
Healthy: Empathetic, compassionate, feeling for others. Caring and concerned about their needs. Thoughtful, warm-hearted, forgiving and sincere. / Encouraging and appreciative, able to see the good in others. Service is important, but takes care of self too: they are nurturing, generous, and giving — a truly loving person. At Their Best: Become deeply unselfish, humble, and altruistic: giving unconditional love to self and others. Feel it is a privilege to be in the lives of others.
Average: Want to be closer to others, so start "people pleasing", becoming overly friendly, emotionally demonstrative, and full of "good intentions" about everything. Give seductive attention: approval, "strokes," flattery. Love their supreme value, and they talk about it constantly. / Become overly intimate and intrusive: they need to be needed, so they hover, meddle, and control in the name of love. Want others to depend on them: give, but expect a return: send double messages. Enveloping and possessive: the codependent, self-sacrificial person who cannot do enough for others — wearing themselves out for everyone, creating needs for themselves to fulfill. / Increasingly self-important and self-satisfied, feel they are indispensable, although they overrate their efforts in others' behalf. Hypochondria, becoming a "martyr" for others. Overbearing, patronizing, presumptuous.
Unhealthy: Can be manipulative and self-serving, instilling guilt by telling others how much they owe them and make them suffer. Abuse food and medication to "stuff feelings" and get sympathy. Undermine people, making belittling, disparaging remarks. Extremely self-deceptive about their motives and how aggressive and/or selfish their behavior is. / Domineering and coercive: feel entitled to get anything they want from others: the repayment of old debts, money, sexual favors. / Able to excuse and rationalize what they do since they feel abused and victimized by others and are bitterly resentful and angry. Somatization of their aggressions result in chronic health problems as they vindicate themselves by "falling apart" and burdening others. Generally corresponds to the Histrionic Personality Disorder and Factitious Disorder.
Key Motivations: Want to be loved, to express their feelings for others, to be needed and appreciated, to get others to respond to them, to vindicate their claims about themselves.
All in all, very eenterestink. O.o Although vaguely depressing...
lol Ok, NOW I go study for History. :P
Ta mates.
2. The helper. The embracing power-seeker
Helpers focus their lives on giving and receiving love. This personality is one of the most emotionally expressive, and one of the most focused on human relationships. At their best, healthy 2s bring a special interpersonal touch to almost everything they do, empowering others with their unrivaled desire to make others feel special, important, and loved for simply being themselves. It is uncommon (though not impossible) to find a 2 in high-profile leadership positions, or in a job that emphasizes analysis at the expense of human interaction.
Highly nurturing at their best, less healthy 2s show a darker side of their personality. When unhealthy 2s help others, it is merely to make themselves feel more important. They may offer "help" that seems intrusive and manipulative to others, or may do a "favor", only to subsequently ask repayment. Average twos are often attracted toward two seemingly opposite kinds of people: toward people with power, whose agenda they can support, and towards the needy and the outcast, who most urgently need the 2's caring spirit.
Famous 2w1s: Fred Rogers ("Mr. Rogers"), Princess Diana, Mother Teresa, Bill Cosby
Famous 2w3s: Kathie Lee Gifford
9s and 2s are often confused with each other (particularly female 9s and 2s) because both are dutiful types, with positive feelings for others that can be tinged with resentment at having their own feelings neglected. However, 2s are more assertive emotionally, while the 9 tends to be more emotionally detached. 9s tend to efface their egos when helping others, while 2s tend to magnify them.
The passion is "pride" and the corresponding fixation is "flattery".
There is a pride in the giving or helping.
A major issue or preoccupation is the gaining of approval and avoidance of rejection by intuiting the needs of the other and becoming almost indispensable (from the Two's perspective) in meeting those needs.
Other issues include, but are not limited to:
Relationship:
Relationship is central, the thing most important and, seemingly, the reason for being. Everything is perceived as relationship. Two's are aggressive in pursuit of relationship.
Other Referencing:
The Two is "other" referencing and is drawn to energetic, powerful others. The focal point of attention often is the space between self and other.
Seduction:
Being expressive; actively moving toward. Becoming indispensable, charming, engaging, social, helpful, caring, and loving.
Needs:
Other's needs are "louder" than own. Two's often like to feel they choose whether to fill the other's needs. Two's often experience self as self-sufficient, without needs. Own needs are repressed.
Manipulative:
Indirect expression of one's own needs.
Dependent:
Dependent on the response and approval from the other.
Feelings:
Two can be emotional, empathetic, dramatic, speak in superlatives and flattering.
Anger:
Anger comes up when the other doesn't appreciate the Two's efforts, or, when the other takes the Two for granted.
Healthy: Empathetic, compassionate, feeling for others. Caring and concerned about their needs. Thoughtful, warm-hearted, forgiving and sincere. / Encouraging and appreciative, able to see the good in others. Service is important, but takes care of self too: they are nurturing, generous, and giving — a truly loving person. At Their Best: Become deeply unselfish, humble, and altruistic: giving unconditional love to self and others. Feel it is a privilege to be in the lives of others.
Average: Want to be closer to others, so start "people pleasing", becoming overly friendly, emotionally demonstrative, and full of "good intentions" about everything. Give seductive attention: approval, "strokes," flattery. Love their supreme value, and they talk about it constantly. / Become overly intimate and intrusive: they need to be needed, so they hover, meddle, and control in the name of love. Want others to depend on them: give, but expect a return: send double messages. Enveloping and possessive: the codependent, self-sacrificial person who cannot do enough for others — wearing themselves out for everyone, creating needs for themselves to fulfill. / Increasingly self-important and self-satisfied, feel they are indispensable, although they overrate their efforts in others' behalf. Hypochondria, becoming a "martyr" for others. Overbearing, patronizing, presumptuous.
Unhealthy: Can be manipulative and self-serving, instilling guilt by telling others how much they owe them and make them suffer. Abuse food and medication to "stuff feelings" and get sympathy. Undermine people, making belittling, disparaging remarks. Extremely self-deceptive about their motives and how aggressive and/or selfish their behavior is. / Domineering and coercive: feel entitled to get anything they want from others: the repayment of old debts, money, sexual favors. / Able to excuse and rationalize what they do since they feel abused and victimized by others and are bitterly resentful and angry. Somatization of their aggressions result in chronic health problems as they vindicate themselves by "falling apart" and burdening others. Generally corresponds to the Histrionic Personality Disorder and Factitious Disorder.
Key Motivations: Want to be loved, to express their feelings for others, to be needed and appreciated, to get others to respond to them, to vindicate their claims about themselves.
All in all, very eenterestink. O.o Although vaguely depressing...
lol Ok, NOW I go study for History. :P
Ta mates.