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Jan. 17th, 2008 11:07 pmQuoted from here:
Tip 6 [for women]. Don't chase your date. Never deprive a man of the thrill of the chase. Besides, it's so much fun being caught! A woman can always initiate a first tea date, but after that, it's up to a man to decide whether he wants to pursue you. Entice men, play with them, and then release them! Allow men to initiate and take the lead in moving your relationship forward.
Oh gender stereotypes, how I love ye... And by love, I mean while this may be true on some level (since dating nowadays is still defined by stereotypes and particular male and female "roles" a lot of the time), writing this stuff just perpetuates it. It's... rather disturbing and disgusting, really, how casually this stuff is thrown out and how almost-but-not-quite subtle it is.
And, yes, dating should be a give-and-take, but it should not be, "Okay, I've made the first move, which is risky enough for a gal! Now, the rest is up to him! Because I'm a woman and women who take the lead at any point are scary! Oh, but I should make sure to 'play' with him too, because women are inherently confusing and flighty and if you're ever straight with a guy, there's just something wrong with you." (And, of course, there's the opposite stereotype at work here too. Apparently, males cannot be shy or want to "be caught." You are the hunters, guys! Bend to my capricious will and go catch me a bison and carry me over the threshold now!")
I'm gonna go write some more now...
(And no, I promise I didn't go looking for this. I was bored and saw it on yahoo while procrastinating. Wheeeee....)
Tip 6 [for women]. Don't chase your date. Never deprive a man of the thrill of the chase. Besides, it's so much fun being caught! A woman can always initiate a first tea date, but after that, it's up to a man to decide whether he wants to pursue you. Entice men, play with them, and then release them! Allow men to initiate and take the lead in moving your relationship forward.
Oh gender stereotypes, how I love ye... And by love, I mean while this may be true on some level (since dating nowadays is still defined by stereotypes and particular male and female "roles" a lot of the time), writing this stuff just perpetuates it. It's... rather disturbing and disgusting, really, how casually this stuff is thrown out and how almost-but-not-quite subtle it is.
And, yes, dating should be a give-and-take, but it should not be, "Okay, I've made the first move, which is risky enough for a gal! Now, the rest is up to him! Because I'm a woman and women who take the lead at any point are scary! Oh, but I should make sure to 'play' with him too, because women are inherently confusing and flighty and if you're ever straight with a guy, there's just something wrong with you." (And, of course, there's the opposite stereotype at work here too. Apparently, males cannot be shy or want to "be caught." You are the hunters, guys! Bend to my capricious will and go catch me a bison and carry me over the threshold now!")
I'm gonna go write some more now...
(And no, I promise I didn't go looking for this. I was bored and saw it on yahoo while procrastinating. Wheeeee....)
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Date: 2008-01-19 03:07 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2008-01-19 06:00 pm (UTC)Silly Doctor not keeping track of stowaways aboard the TARDIS. :)