Random Question

[salienne]

Hmmmm, ok, this is a random question based on a conversation I recently had. How do you guys view friendships? Do you feel they should take effort (like romantic relationships, I suppose) or that you should just be able to just enjoy them and have fun with/talk to/hang with whomever you want whenever you want?

This is just me being curious.

Comments

[lorie-dublonnet.livejournal.com]

I'm one of those who thinks that friendships, like any relationship, needs work. Even if you don't love your friends, they should require your care, and thus effort is needed in maintaining them. It'd be great if that wasn't necessary but when you have two human beings interacting it's impossible for there not to be problems that need resolving. Howwever, I will say that add a romantic relationship into the equation and you have to work on ALL relationships so much harder just to keep the peace and balance when it comes to who gets to spend time with you!

[salienne.livejournal.com]

And this is me agreeing with every single one of your points... This post was just me checking that it wasn't just me who thought that friendships should not just be fun little flings but something that actually needs to be worked on and cultivated.

[lorie-dublonnet.livejournal.com]

Yep, they certainly do! I'm glad you agree, too. I have friends who expect it all to be really easy and no effort whilst I have to play politics ALL of the time!

[kwizbit.livejournal.com]

Friendships take effort. Maybe not as much as an intimate relationship, but all relationship categories require some kind of maintenance. Even if it's just a comment every so often on lj to let them know you're reading/out there listening, or talking on the phone/aim every once in a while. It's not really very hard to put that small effort in, and it only takes a couple minutes. If some one can't do that, I think it's unfair. Relationships are a two way street. Both people need to put work into it to make things work and to enjoy each other.

And in answer to your other comment, I can't do the weekend of the 11-13, since that's the 3 year anni. But then it's summer for me after that, so maybe the weekend after that? When it gets a bit closer, I'll let you know if something anything comes up that can't be re-scheduled, but I'll keep it as open/reserved for you as I can so that it can potentially work :)

[salienne.livejournal.com]

Yay someone else who agrees with me on the "friendships take work" thing! ^.^ *Glomp*

Yeah, just call me when it gets closer. I should have a cell by then (me mum is sending me a new one tomorrow), so just call the old number then. (781-267-5690)